We received a reply from the courts stating that I couldn't be given parental responsibility for the same reasons stated in my previous blogpost. Which is absolutely absurd! Heidi and I were under the impression that anyone could be given parental responsibility?! Apparently not. They left a number on the letterhead which wouldn't connect and when Heidi emailed our local family court, they quoted us the same number which still wouldn't connect. So we're still going round in circles with it.
It's safe to say Heidi is just as gutted as I am, and we're both very passionate to at the very least get me parental responsibility for Woody, if not being named on his birth certificate. It's a worry for Heidi too that if, god forbid, anything did happen to herself or Woody then legally I haven't a leg to stand on. I'm sure there's loopholes, I am, in any traditional marriage, Woody's Step-Parent, even though I think we can all agree I am 100% his parent!
Anyway, through all this, Heidi and I will not be defeated and it will be no means get in the way of our little family. He's our son, and that's just how it is. I've even been given a new name, Heidi's teaching Woody to call me Maddy! Because Mummy and Mummy was only going to get confusing, and she's the Mum Mum and I'm like the Dad Mum haha!! It's the little things eh?!
Recently we've been getting into the festive spirit, and no, not Christmas because I'm still a scrooge! But HALLOWEEN!! We've been loving the autumnal weather, the cosy evenings and the pumpkins!
We started by looking at Halloween costumes for Woody, and in true baby stereotype, we got him a pumpkin outfit! Not a babygrow though, a full on puffy round pumpkin costume! Bargain from Amazon ;)
It wouldn't be Halloween if we didn't take him pumpkin picking though! We went to Dan Tanner's PYO in Christchurch. It was amazing! We took a sledge and picked the fanciest pumpkins we could! We love the nobbly pumpkins, the imperfect ones that everyone leaves! They have the most character :D We got a big one, big enough that we could cut a Woody sized bottom hole and 2 Woody sized leg holes, and you guessed it, we sat him in the pumpkin haha!! If you can't do it when they're babies, when can you do it?! It was a bit of a fight, we wanted him to be naked but I don't think he liked it....He screamed! So we had to get him dressed, but we still got some super cute photos :) We're either cruel or genius, I can't decide haha!
Woody also went to his first Halloween party, I didn't manage to get any snaps because it was so busy! We went to Heidi's mum's house, where all the children she childminds (hoglets as she would call them) had a little lunch time party! It was super cute, and gave Woody the chance to adapt to that environment before he himslef becomes a hoglet.. Heidi does take him there a couple of times a week so he's familiar with the surroundings and the children and her mum so hopefully it'll make the transition easier next year! But Halloween was a success. We love Halloween!!
*Heidi edit - We like Halloween so much we sat in the basement with all the lights off in the rest of the house. Anybody out trick or treating would have seen a dark house. It worked - nobody knocked all night so we didn't have to share any of their Halloween festivities or give away undeserved sweets to kids already suffering from a sugar rush.
Now Halloween is over, I guess we need to get ready for Christmas. It's not really my thing, in fact, I dislike Christmas, but I'm going to try this year and hopefully now I have my own little family I'll lighten up!! We've almost finished our Christmas shopping anyway, Heidi even snagged a present early! An IWatch, because she's being super good and sticking to her diet, she even invested in a treadmill in a bid to get rid of the rest of the baby fat that breasfeeding/expressing didn't quite get rid of! She's doing really well too! She might even agree to be in a family photo soon.....haha!!
Woody is developing well, really well! Too fast maybe!! He's 15 weeks old on Monday and he's very almost sitting, just a little more work to do, he flops a bit far forward and face plants haha! And he's super strong on his feet! He can stand up only holding your fingers, it's amazing! He's been a bit cold-y following his jabs and he's certainly found his voice....He's super noisy now! Definitely has Heidi's personality....His way or no way!! I've got my work cut out, but, it keeps me busy, and that's how I like it :)