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Hi, I'm Kirsty. I'm 23 years old from Southampton, UK. I studied Forensic Biology at University and graduated in 2014. I work as a Assistant Store Manager in retail because I love it, I love people and it allows me to spend more time with my family :)

I have been with my wife, Heidi, since February 2012, married since April 2016 and have a beautiful baby boy, Woody, together born 25/07/16.

We're a very active family, we have a little Westie, Trudy, too. So we love dog walking, holidays and lots of adventure!!

I've blogged our journey through planning our baby, trying, conceiving, pregnancy and onwards in the hope of helping others fulfil their dreams as we did. Find link below. Enjoy :) and please don't hesitate to ask if you have any questions :)



Wednesday, 30 March 2016

Panic! Panic! Panic!

Now that the cat was out the bag, it became more and more real! And suddenly, all the planning and preparation we had done, still wasn't enough!

As I've said before, we have a one bedroom house. It's beautiful, and quirky and suits our personalities to a tee!! But we knew when we bought it that it needed a lot of work. When we first moved in we lived in a tent in the middle of the ground floor, that's right, a tent, how romantic right?! Our little love shack! But the previous owners hadn't opened the windows for 7 years! 7 years! So the damp and mould was unbelievable! We did a lot of work ourselves before the baby was thought about. But now baby was on the way we realised we still had a long way to go!

We got builders in to look into helping us out and getting a second bedroom for the baby. Which is more than achievable, the house has a lot of space over 3 floors so it wasn't too much to ask! What we didn't realise is what the damp had done to the foundations of the house! After getting quotes and sorting pennies etc, we got a start date and an estimated finish date! 28 days before be baby's due date!! What?! Stress!! But it has to be done!! And with help from our parents, we're currently packing up ready to move in with my mum for a month while the most of the dirty work is done. We keep telling ourselves it'll be worth it!

As if that wasn't enough.... The stress gets worse. Our donor, who is basically a walking encyclopaedia, asked us if we were already or thinking about getting married. Me and Heidi had spoken about marriage but nothing was planned. We wanted a beach wedding in Hawaii and we wanted baby to be there, so we thought we had a few years to save and plan for our incredible day. We were in no rush. We chose baby first because of Heidi's age. She's 32 which we are very aware isn't old, but fertility tends to decrease around 35 and we wanted to make sure we could definitely start a family while the odds were on our side.

However, this is where home insemination differs from clinical fertility treatment. At a clinic, Heidi would be parent 1 and myself parent 2 on the birth certificate. At home, because we aren't married, it's not that easy. I'd have to go through an adoption process. After speaking with Heidi, I didn't want to adopt my own child. I had just as much input on this process as a biological father would have in a heterosexual relationship, I put that baby there. That baby is just as much mine as Heidi's. But not in the eyes of the law. And the only way round that, is to get married. As frustrating as that is, it's just how it is currently. Maybe in time that will change.

Marriage isn't a problem, we want to get married. I am totally and utterly besotted by this woman. And now she's carrying our child I'd want nothing more than to marry her. I have no qualms that this is the woman I want to spend my life with/ But now pregnant, Hawaii was out of the question. It's too long haul, and now 12 weeks pregnant we only had a few weeks to get things sorted. And, with the house being renovated, we didn't really have the money to have a Hawaiian wedding as well!

Neither Heidi or I like a big fuss. If we got married in Hawaii it would have just been the two of us, and even though we had to down scale and bring everything forward, we still wanted a small intimate wedding. So after lots of research we booked the two of us to have a runaway wedding in Gretna Green, Scotland. We hadn't got officially engaged because Heidi still wanted to do that properly, she can be cute sometimes! Haha!

So as well as telling people about the new addition, we also told them about the wedding. But our mums, being our mums, like any mums, were a bit gutted they couldn't watch their little girls get married. So they concocted their little plan together, and booked themselves onto the wedding too! So now there's 4 of us going, not too much of a problem I guess, except, I have an eccentric dress style, but our mums....Jesus! We're going to have a wedding all colours of the rainbow! My mum likes to think she's 40 going on 20 and dresses like she's still in the 80's! And Heidi's mum is a hippy! This could be interesting haha! But we love them nonetheless!

Heidi proposed to me on the leap year. Over dominoes pizza! It was amazing! She also got me personalised marshmallows that I couldn't eat because I'm veggie. But it's the thought that counts :) It was super cute! And the ring is simply beautiful! For one day, all the stresses were forgotten about :)



So now, here we are, 11 weeks later. Packing up the house and packing our bags. On Thursday we leave for the wedding, Friday we're getting married (yes, April Fools Day, it's the only day Heidi will remember!), Saturday we travel home and on Sunday we move into my mum's for a month as a newly wed couple while the house gets done! Fun eh?!

Stressful, but totally worth it!!

So anyway I've jumped the gun a bit, but don't worry I'll go back but that's what all the panic is about! It doesn't sound much, but trust me! Planning house renovations, and a wedding, with a pregnant wife-to-be and no wine....isn't easy!

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